How are the British white guys treating you ? Are they attracted to you? I'm moving to London next month and I really want a white British bf (I'm african-American)
Long answer, but this is the truth from my experience:
I only date white men so I find the situation a bit frustrating. I find a lot of white guys here have warped perceptions of black women. That said, more recently I’ve certainly been approached a lot more and I’m (finally) in position where I don’t feel like a last resort or some sort of experiment. It used to REALLY get to me.
I tend to end up with white guys that only date black women or who prefer black women- not intentionally, they just seem to have the confidence and attitude that I’m attracted to. I find lots of white men are happy to check me out, smile at me, or stare directly at me lol, but they’d sooner go for a white girl they’re less attracted to, just because they see it as an easy or socially acceptable option. Sadly, to a lot of white guys, I might as well be a man! In certain bars/clubs they don’t even look at you, you are off radar. Or they do, but then they go and talk to your white friend. In general though, I think you find it doesn’t even cross a lot of peoples minds to date outside of thier race.
That said, London is a multicultural city, and many an open minded white guy exists… Within the last year I’ve met some really cool guys, who do love black women, and don’t care what people think. It’s becoming more common. When I’m out with a white guy, I get looks and drama from black men though. I mean really noticeable looks and staring. We just laugh it off. I often get the “I’ve never dated a black before woman but would love to” type comment. I think this is why I date white men who always go for black women, as I don’t like feeling like flavour of the month, or as if the guy fancies Beyonce so thought he’d have a whack at a black girl, just to see what its like. It’s also why I date older men.
Worth mentioning is that I have always had braids or my fro and I used to think that I should try to look more “European” to attract more white guys. I’m glad I didn’t. All white men I’ve dated, bar none have preferred the braids, curly hair and a natural look, and the most common, but cringeworthy compliments I get are about my hair or how “exotic” I look. I stay way clear of men who only want to date a black woman who essentially looks like a white girl. I wear my bright colours, big hair, and body type with pride and know about where I am from. It completely surprised me that white men would be very into this. I don’t want to attract the sort of man that fancies Niki Minaj and only goes for light skinned women with straight hair.
You get a mixed bag in London. You tend to find the well travelled guys seem to prefer black women. Yes they wine and dine you ;) I used to settle for any white guy, just because I really wanted a white bf, and ended up with racist and abusive men. Don’t settle!! If you go to the right places you can find smart, cultured men that will treat you like a queen (:
Good luck!!! When you get here, send me a message and ill show you around.