Sorry if you've been asked this before, but have you experienced more racism in the United States or the UK?
I’ve been to the States twice and live in London. In my experience I have received open and frequent racism. This is primarily in the workplace and when looking for jobs. Also there is a kind of subtle racism that I think is more dangerous. Its the “you talk like a white girl” type racism. As an educated, well spoken black woman I have to fight constant stereotypes.
When I talk to someone new for the first time, I would say 7/10 people comment on how I speak (because I am very well spoken). I’m also aware that because I’m black and have afro hair etc, that I don’t fit a “corporate” image. A lot of white people find me “exotic” or something. Especially middle/upper class ones. I get really ignorant wierd comments about my appearance lile they’re never seen a black person before.
I think it will be a long time until attitudes change. I date white men, and sometimes their friends will make the “brown sugar” type comments. I’ve been called a “nigger” in public before. I’ve not been let into certain nightclubs and bars, and been fairly sure it was because of my colour- when all my white friends have been let in and I get stopped on the door. But I don’t let it affect me because I can’t change it.Through my job and with everyone I meet I try to change the preconceptions of black people that people have, and I hope that the people that meet me, realise that I am more than a colour, and that my race doesn’t define me.
Hi, really admire your knowledge and ideas about black history, wish more people were driven to find out about who they are/where they've come from. Wanted to know your thoughts about black history month? Had this debate several times with people and as a proud black person I don't agree with it (for reasons which I won't go into as...well...i'm here to get your opinion!). Thanks. Keep going, you're doing a great job!
In the words of Kanye “make black history every day, I don’t need a month.” I think its patronising. It feeds the idea thay we are the same, but that we should be treated differently. People should be celebrated. Not black people, Chinese people or white people, ALL people. It might be positive discrimination, but its still discrimination. For me the difference our people made shouldn’t be heard for one month a year. We shouldn’t be separated. Our history is part of the history of the world. We spend every day of the year being ridiculed and suppressed by the media, so why can’t we be celebrated every day too. There is more to black success than entertainment and sports. We never hear about the black intellects, the black philosophers. Or is we do they are Black Philosophers. Black first. Philosophers second. History should be integrated in schools. Other civilisations get even less coverage- great nations with rich history like China and India go virtually unnoticed. What can I say, its sad. 2012 and we still have black history month. Think about the Plessy vs Ferguson “separate but equal” case. (If you don’t know about it, read about it). Over 100 years later and little has changed. Stay conscious.
Whats with black girls and Latin girls having huge rump bootys ,do men really find them hot or are they simply a way to embrace the over weight masses that choke on mcdonalds etc there is nothing hot about fat. That's not to say that shapely bums aren't hot it's just I can't see beer bellies ever turning girls on
I’ll say this. When I first started discovering fetishism and eroticism I realised “men like…” Was a ridiculous way to start a statement. I talk to guys that like thin, tiny women- no boobs ass or anything, and guys that like overweight women. Each to thier own. Live and let live. For everything you dislike, someone somewhere in the world loves it. And vice versa.
With specific regards to your question- Some men find it hot. Some don’t. It is our body type. Is is how we are. I’m not talking about fat per se. I’m talking about ratios, and where we retain fat. If you are overweight then you are overweight. If you have a big ass you have a big ass…. What do you want us to do about it??
There are also psychological links men have with breast, hip and ass size to a woman’s appearance of fertility, and therefore her attractiveness.
I think women should love thier bodies. We are beautiful. I love big curvy bums!! I find them very sexy on women. It’s funny how the most natural of traits like this get turned “ugly” by the media. First it was our “big lips” now Angelina Jolie is a sex icon and everyones dying to have thier lips pumped with collagen. Then the dark skin- yet its fashionable to get a tan. Now its the “big ass” that we had since forever that people ate spending a small fortune trying to achieve.. We are prefect in our imperfections. One day someone woke up and realised the women in men’s magazines are not like the ones in female fashion magazines and that maybe to be curvy could be sexy. For me there is nothing more sexy than a natural woman- whatever shape, size, race.
All hail the real woman!
You are beautiful (:
hi umm i just watched your vid about stereotypes and stuff..i must say you make valid points..i just came to the U.S and i notice quite a few of the black folks just like to be ignorant and always tend to blame others for their own problems(even other blacks who step up in life)it pains my heart as a islander and as black person OK that is all.
I think its about self moderation. It’s about being part of the problem or part of the solution. Some things are not your fault, some are, and some don’t matter either way because you can change situations and make them work for you. The world is steeped in oppressive history, but if you live in the past that is where you will remain. Are some things harder for me because I am a black woman? Yes. But that makes the success all the more sweeter when I overcome these obstacles and continue to win against the odds. I don’t mind grafting and earning things as I’ve never been in a position where things were just handed to me on a plate. Don’t let anyone, anything, your gender, and least of all your colour, dictate what you can or cannot do.
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This isn't a question. I just wanted to let you know that you have gained a follower due to your post how being black and intelligent does not make you white. I LOVED IT. I can relate to it completely. (:
Thankyou treacle (: Hatred of others is just a mask for self hatred so I try to remember that people that direct these comments at me have thier own unresolved issues. I don’t understand why people think being smart and being black are mutually exclusive. Some people have this really patronising attitude like “stop stealing intelligence from the white people and eat your banana” …you know what I mean?!?!
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Black + Intelligent does not = “White.”
(In response to a vindictive anonymous question:)
If you want to tell me about how I’m a “coconut” and a “bounty” just because I am intelligent and talk in an educated way you need to look at yourself. The first people to tell you about how black they are, are the last people to read a book. When did YOUR country gain independence? Don’t know? Free your mind and the rest will follow. How can you tell me what it means to be black when you have blonde hair stuck to your head? Just because I am not Nicki Minajifying myself and talking like I never got taught doesn’t make me any more or less a person. Be honest with yourself, love yourself and understand yourself- I see a lot of people talking about the struggle, and hard nock life posing in shoes that cost my months rent, still living in thier mothers house. I pay my own. My culture, history and self image is not determined by my ability to wear tribal prints and lock myself in a ghetto mindframe. I love to learn, invested in education and studying and in that way sold myself out of mental slavery. Education is the single biggest and most important contributant to everything that happens around us, yet I still attract these stupid messages from those that are misguided and misinformed. You will remain miserable. I forgot more about my history than you will ever know. Keep hiding behind anonymity because the mirror of ignorance reveals something very ugly. Viva all the Real Women, AntiBimbos and Smart Girls out there, we always have and we always will, supercede fashion.